I finally figured out why you haven't started

Hey Fam,

It's January. You're probably thinking about goals. Maybe you even wrote some down.

And somewhere on that list, maybe at the top, maybe buried where you don't have to look at it, is something about your child's future.

The trust. The life insurance. The "what happens if something happens to me" stuff you've been meaning to figure out.

I talk to parents every week who tell me some version of: "I know I need to do this. I just keep putting it off."

But here's what I've learned after hundreds of these conversations:

Most of you aren't procrastinating.

You're paralyzed.

For me, there's a difference.

Procrastination is knowing what to do and choosing Netflix instead.

Paralysis is not knowing what to do, or being so overwhelmed by the options that your brain just... shuts down.

You're not avoiding the task. You're avoiding the decision.

Because what if you pick wrong? What if you mess up something that affects your child for the rest of their life?

So you do nothing. And another year passes.

I get it. When Christian was first diagnosed, I was surrounded by decisions I didn't feel qualified to make.

What finally got me moving wasn't more information. It was clarity on the first step. Not the whole plan, just the next thing.

That's what I want to help you find this year.

Not a massive overhaul.

Not a 47-point checklist.

Just: what's the one gap that, if you closed it, would let you sleep a little better?

Maybe it's finally getting that Special Needs Trust set up so your child doesn't lose their benefits.

Maybe it's realizing the life insurance through your job isn't enough, and isn't even structured right.

Maybe it's writing a Letter of Intent so the people who step in after you actually know how to care for your kid.

You don't have to do all of it at once.

You just have to start.

And here's the other thing I've learned: you can't do this alone.

Not because you're not capable, but because this journey is too heavy to carry by yourself.

You need people who get it. Not advice from your brother-in-law who read an article once. Real support from parents living this every day.

That's why I created a new community called Autism Parents Unfiltered.

It's a private Facebook group for parents and caregivers who want a space to talk about the real stuff, the wins, the hard days, the "is this just my kid?" moments, the planning questions that keep you up at night.

No selling. No judgment. Just parents who understand.

If you've been feeling stuck, I want to invite you to two things:

First, take our 2-minute planning survey. It helps me serve you better.

Second, join Autism Parents Unfiltered. Because clarity is easier when you're not figuring it out alone.

This year doesn't have to be the year you "finally get around to it."

It can be the year you actually move.

One step. That's all.

I'll be here.

P.S. Next week, I'm breaking down the one planning mistake I see more than any other, and it's not what you think. If you've ever told yourself "I have life insurance, so I'm covered," you're going to want to read it.

Verse of the Week:

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind."

— 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV)

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